#Teacher #Trainer #Mentor #Coach #Counsellor #Facilitator - Whats the difference?

Some roles in our life are clearly definited, viz., a father, a wife, a boss, a subordinate, a colleague, a sibling, etc. Many other roles are not defined and quite often, confused with each other. The error is noticeable in case of some of these terms used interchangeably. I, for one, have read and heard the terms coach, trainer, teacher, etc. being used with impunity, so much so, there are thousands out there who think a coach is a trainer. A coach can be brilliant as a coach without necessarily having a distinguished career. Mr. Ramakant Achrekar, Sachin Tendulkar’s coach is perhaps the best example. Vide this post, I am making an attempt at clarifying the roles played by a teacher, tr

#Breakthrough by Combining Behavioral Conditioning with Thought conditioning

In an earlier post, I spoke about the need for purposefully reviewing whether the results you derived were congruent with the actions you had taken. In the same post, I harped on conditioning being one of the ways to harmonize behaviour with results and mentioned two primary forms – thought conditioning (popularly called affirmations) and behavioural conditioning. In a subsequent post, I explained how behavioural conditioning can be used to form new habits or substitute old behaviour. Nevertheless, I still maintain that optimal results can be derived by using both thought conditioning and behavioural conditioning concomitantly. There are several occasions, as many people have ruefully dis

Six Ways to Change Behavior and Align it With Results

If you have read my previous article on this blog on Harmonizing Behaviour with Results, you already know that the two primary elements in conditioning behaviour are Control and Substitution. You are interested in conditioning or re-conditioning behaviour so as to harmonize it with the results that you seek. This essentially means that you wish to condition your behaviour to form new habits or to substitute the old behaviour which is not giving the desired results. B F Skinner, an American psychologist, strongly believed that classical conditioning was too simplistic a model to explain something as complex as human behaviour. He felt that what we considered as ‘free will’ was illusionary a

How to Harmonize Behavior with Results

We are a basket of conditioned and unconditioned behaviours. In the not-too-distant future, I would like to write more on this subject but meanwhile if you wish to read more about it, this link will help. The problem, as always, is that most of us unknowingly and unwittingly condition our own behaviours without paying heed to the results that emerge. When is the last time we have looked back on our results and analysed whether they are congruent to our behaviour in that period? When is the last time we have deliberately changed our behaviour to see if they change the results? More often than not, introspection is not a priority we grapple with. We are more driven by the tyranny of the im

The ONLY Motivation that Actually Works

Quite often, I hear and read that the only real motivator that drives people to work and perform is money. I find this statement to be preposterous because one has to only look around and you will find scores of people who toil tirelessly in fields such as teaching and social service, when they are not paid even close to what they are worth. Again, who determines just how much is the worth of a particular job, work or service is not clearly discernible. There are professions where people are paid many times what they are worth and others where they are barely paid what they deserve. Yet society accepts it as the norm, but the driving force behind each of these could be resoundingly diffe

Direction is more Important than Distance |Carving Your Path

With a corporate career spanning over a quarter of a century together combined with diverse arenas of interest and being committed to lifelong learning, I thought I should share my thoughts on carving a path through life in the fervent hope that many a reader would write right back in response. Direction dwarfs distance In a cricket crazy country, everyone knows that merely an attempt to hit the ball as far as possible is insufficient, the direction in which the ball is hit is equally if not more important. For those who have been fortunate to have played golf, know this quite well. In a frantic endeavour to cover a greater distance, the direction often goes awry. Finding the right directi

How to Circumvent Pitfalls That Arrest Your Progress | The Art of Perseverance

A Goal is generally defined as the final objective of a person's effort; an aim or desired result. Businessdictionary.com defines it as “An observable and measurable end result having one or more objectives to be achieved within a more or less fixed timeframe”. Unless we are aimless creatures wandering about on this earth, all of us have goals. Some spell it out clearly, some write it down, a few plan it comprehensively and others carry it around in their head without crystallizing them. Keep visiting this blog for more articles and insights about goals. In my nascent years as a life coach, which draws upon tools and techniques from psychology, neuroscience and counselling, the primary a

ONE thing That Can Change Your Life Forever

I stopped watching TV almost 14 years ago and most apprehensions I had about missing out on news and information were short-lived. It is probably one of the most significant steps I took towards self-improvement, because it instantly released an additional hour or two per day for other tasks, which I then believed I did not quite have time for. Over the years, I have tried to impress upon various people including the colleagues at my workplace on the advantages and almost everyone who followed this simple rule confirmed that their life had changed significantly. Many people that I come in touch with me ask me why I did this, what are the advantages and how on earth I can manage life withou

Understanding EGO and getting rid of it

A few months ago, a person I genuinely admire made a public statement that confounded me, he said ”I have been on the spiritual path for such a long time that I have almost no ego left.” And again, a few days ago, a colleague happened to mention, "I have so much wealth, that I don't care about anything - I just don't care. I have no ego - absolutely none." This set me thinking. Is that ever possible for the most deserving of human beings even if there has been a dedicated focused approach to spiritual growth. What is Ego? Apart from being a much maligned word used ever so often and so often used as an adjective to signify something deplorable, contemptuous or opprobrious in a person. I

The Cure for Distraction

A distracted mind is an agitated mind that stubbornly prevents you from concentrating on a particular thing. Also called the "Monkey Mind" it refuses to be still, even when you are idle. And in some people, it is hyper-distracted-mind, where it refuses to focus on a task, even when you are not idle. Mindfulness means moment to moment awareness of present events and also remembering to be aware of something or to do something at a designated time in the future. In other words, it means being attentive in everything that we do and have to do without letting the mind wander incessantly. Attention is maintained on the chosen object or subject of awareness and in case the mind wanders away fro

Imagination is more Powerful Than Willpower

Let us say we place a wooden plank approximately 2 feet wide and 100 metres long on the ground. You are now required to walk on this plank – one foot in front of the other – without placing your foot on the ground. With ease and with some effort at concentrating on your task, you can easily achieve this. Now, imagine that this same plank was placed between two buildings at a height of 100 or 200 feet from the ground. Walking on this is no different from what you did earlier. Place one foot in front of the other and you are home! Even as you think of this, what takes over? Your imagination! Fear that was absent earlier now rears its awful face. What was child’s play earlier now becomes

Discover How your Learn - and use it to your advantage!

To be a competent learner and to maximise our learning, it is important that we know what kind of a ‘learner’ we are. Take the time to find out how you prefer to learn, what your unique abilities are in relation to learning and how you can work on the areas which are not as developed as other areas. We take in information through our five senses : visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory and gustatory. Four of them go via the brain stem but smell goes direct to the amygdala and is therefore the quickest of senses to register with us. The three most common ways of receiving information is through our eyes, our ears or through our body. We see things, hear things or experience them. Most of u

So What's Stopping You?

Our performance as well as our ‘feel good factor’ are both undoubtedly and influenced by our work habits. Office woes and also to some extent, chaotic personal exigencies are also impacted by poor work habits. The ‘tyranny of the urgent’ and the failure to take a deliberate decision on the extent to which we should keep up with news, social networks, chats and messages is, more often than not, responsible for the chaos in our daily life. Everyone has only 24 hours a day – yet some manage to squeeze so much more out of it than others. Here are a few habits to break which can dramatically increase your productivity, efficiency and effectiveness on both the personal and professional front.

Kaizen | lidt bedre hver dag

“When you improve a little each day, eventually big things occur. When you improve conditioning a little each day, eventually you have a big improvement in conditioning. Not tomorrow, not the next day, but eventually a big gain is made. Don’t look for the big, quick improvement. Seek the small improvement one day at a time. That’s the only way it happens — and when it happens, it lasts.” —John Wooden "Lidt bedre hver dag" means "a little better every day" in Danish. The Kaizen approach to self-improvement is similar to chunking in the world of NLP (Neuru-Linguistic Programming). It encourages action and continuous improvement through each small step that you take. It seeks to breakdown lar

Life Lessons from Milkha Singh - The Flying Sikh

It was an honour and a pleasure to meet the legend a couple of years ago and spend some time with him. There is so much to learn from this venerable gentleman that it would fill a volume. I am not sure how many of you happened to watch the movie “Bhaag Milkha Bhaag”. It is a 2013 Indian biographical sports film based on the life of "The Flying Sikh" Milkha Singh, an Indian athlete who was a national champion and an Olympian. The film starts with the 1960 Summer Olympics in Rome, where a coach says "Bhaag Milkha Bhaag!", and the story is taken back to the haunting memories of childhood days of a young boy. The partition of India in 1947 caused chaos which resulted in war with the locals o

Decision Making : Popular? or Right?

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track. The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way? Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make................ Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I tho

#Top10 Ways to Boost Your Brain Power

You already know that the human brain is similar to a muscle in one respect – the more you use it, the stronger it becomes. To take this analogy forward, we do not exercise or intentionally use the brain just as we often do not exercise or intentionally use the muscle – it just happens as part and parcel of our every day life. Our brain is capable of some amazing feats if you can work out parts of your brain making it grow physically, which means you form new neural pathways and strengthen existing ones. Neurogenesis is the process of creating new neurons. Whereas existing neurons are strengthened through experience or through connections from its neighbouring neurons which are strengthened

#Top10 Tips for Public Speaking - the Sound of Your Voice

One of the most important components of public speaking is the sound of your voice. It influences the impact of your message, and might even make or break the success of your speech. Fortunately, for many people, good voice quality can be learned. Instructions : 1. Breathe from your diaphragm - Practice long and controlled exhales. When you speak, use breath to punctuate your point. For example, take a breath at the end of each phrase whether you need to or not. Use that opportunity to pause and let the listeners absorb what you say. 2. Use pitch - Lower pitches generally are more soothing to hear. However, modulating your pitch for emphasis will keep your listeners engaged. Develop your pit

Time Management is Dead!

”Manage” by definition means to be responsible for controlling or organizing someone or something or to be in charge of someone or something. The expression ”Time Management” is therefore a misnomer. Notwithstanding the fact that there are thousands of books and workshops on the subject, and it is as hot a product as ”weight loss”, the fact remains that none of us can ever control or organize time or force it to go faster or attempt to make it stand still. None of us can ever manage time, it is a no-brainer. What we can only manage is ourself and what we do with the time that we have. What we can only learn is how to organize our life and make good use of the effluxion of time. Time wa

Placing the Horse Before the Cart : Overcoming Depression

There are two ways you will react to this article – either you will be taken aback or you will feel elated. ”Mood” is defined as a temporary state of mind or feeling. Depression is typically a mood when it is temporary. The word is used all too easily and frequently these days, to the extent that even when a person is feeling bad or sad about something, he says he is depressed. It is a state of mind that can affect a person’s thoughts, behavior and sense of well being. It is characterized by loss of interest in day to day activities, inability to concentrate, problems with recall and making decisions. The way he feels could be sad, anxious, empty, helpless, useless, worthless, restless o
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